Lending hands are better than doles: A logical and reasoned analysis of facts and observations shows that a lending hand and humane approach which can help career aspirants to become self-oriented and independent with better guidance in preparation. As helping hands is better to doles which make them habitual and dependent on others. Anything available without efforts like doles that always cripple an individual’s endeavor to be self-dependent and de-motivated him/her to do even that work which he/she can himself/herself. However, doles must be used as an exception rather than the principle. 

There are many examples of IAS toppers and other career aspirants in different fields who have proved their efforts made them successful in odd situations where many can’t imagine. For examples, a waiter how he cracked the IAS, likewise a diviyang woman topped IAS, son of a rickshawala, a newspaper hawker, a peon’s daughter, a dowry victim, an orphanage, a waiter, and many more who proved to be successful without a dole. 

“Lending hands prepares us to be independent, decision-maker, courageous, analytic, strategic, and successful in our goals to reach the destination set before.” __ Dr. Md. Usmangani Ansari (founder of missionexams)

“No one knows everything but everyone knows something. If some things of everyone come together that becomes many things as lending hands for one-another to overcome any hurdle in the way of success.” __ Dr. Md. Usmangani Ansari

Life experience is the greatest learned and effective teacher of all. What the hard knocks days and sleepless nights of life can teach us, no teacher could ever match with how great he/she may be. It is another matter of how we choose to learn from life teachings. 

As Albert Einstein said, “Never stop learning because life never stops teaching.” & “The true sign of intelligence is not knowledge but imagination.”

Everyone is born by facing challenges from the very beginning of life in this world. Life is not a bed of roses. Everyone starts standing with many falls so we must walk and run to be able to stand on our own. And we must accept that failures are a natural phenomenon and part of life.

Every failure is a stepping stone to success. It teaches us a lot by revealing our weaknesses that must be overcome. It discloses the weakness of our planning and execution of road maps. It provides an opportunity to correct mistakes and inspires us to put in more effort. It makes us stronger to act more decisively. 

As the filament bulb that lights not only our homes day and night but the darkness of our lives worldwide was invented by Thomas Alva Edison after more than a thousand failures in his endeavor. On knowing this a reporter asked him whether Edison wasted his time in his efforts. Edison said,

“No, I just found a thousand ways in which I could not make the filament bulb.”

It shows that success and failure are two sides of the same coin. And why it has been said that “success embraces those who embrace failures and failures become the pillar of success”.

The darkness after failure in the career aspirants’ life and changing dynamics in the competitive career exams pattern, persuaded Dr. M.U. Ansari to make “the careers of others” like a dream project to do something for the success and satisfaction in the life of career aspirants . As he faced the same in his career due to lack of fruitful guidance in the past he took “others’ career” as a life dream to make them succeed in career exams as well as in life.